Safeguarding the Well-Being of Children During & After A Parental Breakup

From the desk of Dr. Chet

Psychologist & Parent Divorce Educator

Dear Parents and Other Caregivers,

Serving as a psychologist and parent divorce educator, I have learned that what separating parents most need are ideas and strategies that offer genuine hope that their children can be okay.

Over the past 25 years, I have collected key concepts from research and crafted them into easy-to-understand messages for parents to help their children. I refined those messages as I engaged over 25,000 parents who attended my Kids First Parent Divorce Education Classes. Those ideas and strategies were further improved as I applied them in my private practice as a psychologist working with over 2000 parents and children.

This book offers hope through parental empowerment.

Wishing you and your children the best,

Dr. Chet


Most separating parents worry about how their children will cope with their breakups. Will the children be okay? What can be done to help them? What is known about that? The short answer is that there is a lot known about how children cope with and are affected by parental breakups. This book has been written to help parents chart a course to a hopeful future where children can be loved and cared for by both parents. Reviewing highlights of 50 years of research, Part I identifies what helps in hinders children as they cope with parental pickups. Built on that evidence, Part II offers a Family Transition Plan consisting of 15 positive steps parents can take to ensure the well-being of their children. It is a workbook filled with family-planning checklists and worksheets. 8.5 x 11, 92 pages.

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About the Author

Dr. Chet Muklewicz is a Pennsylvania Licensed Psychologist. He has 25 years of specialized experience acquired as a parent divorce educator, as a trainer to legal and mental health professionals, a therapist specializing in children of divorce, and an author.He developed and presented a parent divorce education class called Kids First to over to over 25,000 parents. In his private practice he has helped thousands of families cope with parental breakups and transition into healthy two-home families.  He is a former Academic Dean, Professor of Psychology and Lecturer Graduate School. He is often called upon as an expert witness in Family Courts.

Reviews By Professionals

Dr. Richard A. Warshak

"This is really two great books in one. An eminently sensible guide packed with wisdom and practical tips grounded in professional experience and up-to-date scientific research. And a workbook with easy, yet valuable, exercises to help parents implement fifteen steps to ensure their children’s well-being. Handy ‘snap’ reads conveniently highlight the main takeaways. These prescriptions alone are worth the price of admission."

Past clinical professor of psychiatry, University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center

Author, Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthingand Brainwashing

Richardson, Texas

Barbara Jo Fidler, PhD

"This book is a must-read for any parent navigating unchartered waters and wanting to find a healthy passageway for their children. With clarity and concision, Part I provides vital information arising out of decades of research on risk and resiliency factors, which every parent needs to know to be able to foster healthy child adjustment. Using concrete goals combined with practical worksheets, Part II identifies fifteen positive steps including what to do and what to avoid so that parents can protect their children from adult conflict, foster healthy child adjustment, and support positive relationships with both parents. This quick-and-easy read is sure to prove invaluable to parents and their children and a great resource for parent education courses. Don’t miss out on the twenty mini videos, a bonus, available at the Kids First website!"

Registered psychologist, mediator, parenting coordinator

Co-author, Children Who Resist Postseparation Parental Contact: A Differential Approach for Legal and Mental Health Professionals

Toronto, Canada

Matthew J. Sullivan, PhD

"This book brilliantly distills the best relevant social science and applies it to the practical challenges that families face as they re-structure after a parental breakup. The wisdom provided for parents is delivered in a well-organized, reader-friendly format that is engaging and hands-on, utilizing worksheets and examples of approaches to a myriad of all-too-common coparenting scenarios. Dr. Muklewicz delivers on the hopeful premise that parents who are armed with evidence-based and solution-oriented advice can avoid harm to their children and successfully navigate this family transition.”"

Co-founder, Overcoming Barriers, Inc.2019-2020 president, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC)

Author, Overcoming the Alienation Crisis: 33 Coparenting Solutions

Palo Alto, California

P. Leslie Herold, PhD

“Having been a psychologist and divorce educator myself for 25 years, I say without reservation that this new book is state of the art. It is not only easy to read but presented in such a way to make it easy to focus on points essential to parents living apart. Think of it as a DMV manual: a guide to steer parents from crashing their family units into hazards dangerous to themselves and their children. A must read!”

Founder and president, Solutions for Families

San Bernardino, California

Eileen McCarten, MS, LCPC

“Dr. Chet Muklewicz, a leader in divorce education, has done it again! With his wealth of experience and insight into the needs of separating and divorcing parents, this book covers many of the concerns and issues separating and divorcing parents face in a user-friendly way for parents to learn strategies and methods for child-centered communication, cooperation, and problem-solving. This wonderful resource can help parents help themselves and their children create a hopeful future and a healthy two-home family system.”

Therapist, mediator, and parent educator, Family Matters-PACT

Rockford, Illinois

Larry V. Swall, JD

“Those of us who work with conflict and post-breakup families greatly appreciate the tools that are being offered in this book. All too often parents who are separated are unable to make joint decisions; however, this workbook really provides guidance and specific advice on how to think about and approach problem-solving after mom and dad have separated. It will help parents, married or not, to build a functional framework and establish a strategy for cooperative co-parenting. The worksheets make it easy to put into regular practice. It is a greatresource for parents and professionals.”

Attorney and mediator

Liberty, Missouri

Amazon Customer Reviews

Excellent Resource

"I wish I could buy this book for so many parents at my school. It explains the effects of breakups on children and offers hope. Dr. M. provides positive steps toward a healthy 2 home family from his many years of of experience counseling and writing books on the issues at hand. Easy to follow checklists, exercises, and workbook pages can facilitate the transition, decrease stress, and add tolerance and resiliency to your family situation. I would highly recommend this resource to decrease the adverse effects of parent breakups for our children today."

- Pepper McClure

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on September 19, 2021

Extremely Helpful Resource

"As a parent that helped to navigate 3 children through a divorce and a co-parenting situation, the information provided in this book are nothing short of extraordinary. The information, the ideas, and the strategies are broken down into easy to follow advice and guidance along with worksheets to follow up. This is a must read for any parent going through a divorce and hoping to stay child centered for the well-being of the children. This book definitely gave me different techniques to consider and different avenues to evaluate to make a difficult situation a little easier. I am so thankful to have read this book. I will surly be passing it along to others in a similar situation."

- Michele

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on October 11, 2021

Excellent Resource

"This book is an excellent resource for anyone going through the difficulties of divorce with children. I was very impressed by the style in which this book is presented. This is not an easy topic to deal with. I would recommend this book to anyone going through a divorce or separation who has children. The focus is on the kids and the impact on them. It is reassuring to know that the impact of divorce does not hurt your kids for life. This book is definitely worth the price to help loved ones going through this always difficult situation where no one wins (especially when there are children involved). This is a MUST read for any parent dealing with this difficult situation."

- John Karwaski

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on September 22, 2021

Valuable information to enhance positive communication for separating and divorcing parents

"As the Executive Director for a non-profit organization that focuses on strengthening the family unit, I can attest this book is a wonderful resource that will provide positive outcomes for separating and divorcing parents. The guide includes approaches to establishing meaningful conversations to help overcome barriers that often limit effective communications in families. I find the book very easy to navigate and includes a workbook addition that is engaging and useful for parents. Without reservation, I recommend this book as an essential tool for professionals and families!"

- HANDS of Wyoming County

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on September 23, 2021

Excellent book

"As a clinical social worker I highly recommend Dr. M's book. It contains valuable advice and examples for separating and divorcing parents. It is also an excellent resource for anyone involved with children, i.e., (grandparents, counselors, teachers, clinicians). It provides them with insight and counseling techniques to guide children through all stages of development."

- Frances Fox, LCSW

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on September 27, 2021

There is help for divorcing parents

"The information provided in the book was extremely helpful. It provides many solutions to many problems that I have faced, especially when helping my children understand the situation. This book is a very helpful tool for anyone dealing with divorce and custody"

- Ron K

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on September 16, 2021

Insightful and practical

"This book is a great resource for any parent going through separation or divorce. It takes research and counseling techniques and translates them into workable strategies that any parent can use with his children. It also offers guidelines and treatment recommendations to the therapist. It is a "Must Have" for anyone who wants to support a child dealing with his or hers parents' marital difficulties."

- Doc44

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on September 29, 2021

Safeguarding Children

"This book is a must have tool for clinicians working with children and families. Everything you need is in one comprehensive book backed by fifty years of research counseling experience. I wouldn’t practice without this guide."

- Patrick Walsh, Ph.D

Reviewed in the United States on September 22, 2021

Protecting Children during Breakups

"This should be required reading for ALL parents that are going through a breakup/divorce. It's easy for adults to get lost in their own story and assume that they are adequately shielding the kids from the chaos but they usually aren't! This workbook can walk families through the most difficult challenges associated with divorce and breakups. By focusing on the needs of the family rather than the divorcing adults, children can be part of the planning for a new family structure. Including children in creating a family vision can be empowering for them when they are feeling most vulnerable. Please share this book with all families that are experiencing a breakup!!"

- Ellen

Verified Purchase - Reviewed in the United States on September 22, 2021

Safeguarding the Well-Being of Children During & After A Parental Breakup